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August 18, 2014

When No Could Mean Yes

say yesI’m a big proponent of saying no in life to anything that doesn’t bring you joy, bring someone you love joy, or add joy to the world. That leaves a lot to say no to. And that’s okay. Because when you sign up for something you really don’t have the heart to do it depletes your chi and creates a negative feedback loop in the universe. If you don’t know what I’m talking about you have been saying yes too much. I actually got pretty good at saying no in my 30s after feeling so obligated to everything and everyone in my 20s. It’s a freeing thing, say no. Rarely will you regret it. But lately I’ve been saying yes for reasons that don’t feed my soul, though they may boost my resumé or bank account. Those are reasons that are easy to justify in our society. They’re a seal of approval that’s hard to argue with. But I had a revelation over the weekend. What if instead of thinking about what I might gain by saying yes, I think about what I might be missing out on by keeping my dance card so full? Maybe if I saved a little room for the unexpected, the unplanned (there’s a concept) in my busy schedule, something new or unexpected might flow in. It’s kind of exciting, when you think about it!


  • Elizabeth Dehn
    Born and raised in Minnesota by surprisingly low-maintenance parents, beauty writer and lifestyle editor Elizabeth Dehn (aka Bets) spent her awkward years buying Mood lipstick and whipping up DIY face masks before founding Beauty Bets in 2009.
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