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October 21, 2015

Put Down Your iPhone

Put Down Your iPhone | Beauty Bets

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A few weeks ago the New York Times ran the op-ed, Start Talking, Stop Googling, and I haven’t been able to get it out of my mind since. That we’ve become a smart phone-obsessed, social media-addicted society isn’t new. It’s that the ramifications have taken root in our homes, families and rising generations, and been scientifically studied and documented. When I read that college students don’t know how to express empathy because they’re too busy staring down at screens to register body language in fellow human beings, I wonder how my own iPhone habits are impacting my ability to relate and connect. Here’s what I do know: With the exception of using Google Maps because I’m legitimately directionally challenged, or responding to a text/call that’s legitimately urgent, there is absolutely no reason to be on my phone when I’m with the people I love. Email can wait (yes, even work email). Instagram can wait. IMBDing the celebrity whose name I can’t remember can definitely wait. My only task is to be present. I’m not perfect at it—a group text about what we’re wearing to the gala on Friday? Crack.—but if my four-year-old nephew is sprawled out in front of me with a puzzle, or my best friend is telling me about her crazy day, why would I EVER allow myself to be distracted, let alone seek one out? If you can’t answer that, allow me: anxiety. We are so stressed out about fill-in-the-blank and so scared about the the future we avoid being conscious in the now. Checking Facebook updates is just one easy, lazy way to check out of our lives so we don’t have to deal with them. In the past year I’ve woken up to the fact that I WANT to deal with my life. I want to love it, too. And the only way to do that is to put down my iPhone and start taking in whatever or whomever is in front of me. If I don’t like what I see or hear, it’s time to change the conversation—not look away from it.


  • Elizabeth Dehn
    Born and raised in Minnesota by surprisingly low-maintenance parents, beauty writer and lifestyle editor Elizabeth Dehn (aka Bets) spent her awkward years buying Mood lipstick and whipping up DIY face masks before founding Beauty Bets in 2009.
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